I dont feel love for him anymore?

my marriage is in huge trouble. I have been cheated, on lied to and emotionally beaten down numerous times. I have always stayed because I wanted to make it work and I loved him. I also didnt want another failure in my life. Now we have a child who I stay home with. I quit my job to care for him. I decided Im tired of feeling like meat and used for sex so I told my husband that I wont do it just so he can feel good, that I want to feel good too. I want to make love with someone who is not selfish. Recently he has been yelling at me things like Im a bad mother, and lets divorce, or Im leaving. Then a few hours later he acts like nothing happened.So of course this makes me cold to him. After one of those yelling times, I felt myself numb completely. I no longer feel that emotional attachment to him . He wants to work it out but says it takes two, and I need to feel it in my heart that I want to make things work. However I dont feel it in my heart. I would like to work it out for my childs sake but dont know if I can get myself to want this... Im just very tired of all of our issues and fights, Is it possible for me to love him again, with all the mess he has put me thru? How do I do that?